Coping with Post Ramadan Blues

May 26 , 2023

Coping with Post Ramadan Blues

              Assalam alai kum,

Hope Alhamdulillah you are all doing well. Its been long since we connected so decided to hop over the live session today and have a small talk with all our lovely sisters in deen out there .. Ramadan is gone, shawwal went too. And here we are in month of  Dhul qadah awaiting dhul hijjah . Most of the times the topics I like to speak about are those which I myself have experienced so would like to  help you and myself. And hence today will be talking about The  Post Ramadan Blues.  So what are they . Its not just missing Ramadan after they are gone. But a dip in one’s eeman ,ibaadah. Sometimes those also seep into your emotions and then you start feeling so low,depressed .

The first  thing I would like to tell you all is the very fact that you regret this dip is a good sign .  Here I would quote Ibn Jawzi “If you feel bad when you commit a sin, then know that that’s a sign that your heart is still alive because you wouldn’t feel anything if your heart was dead.”

So Mabrouk you are on the right way. But its not just about feeling . Its about channeling them towards the right actions.

My talks are more practical based than otherwise .

So lets plunge into and identify the causes and how you deal with it

  • Missing will /motivation ( Al hamm)

We miss the will, the motivation . When Ramadan is there we are determined and we plan  all our schedules so we can fast daily no matter if its summers. We pray tahajjud,read quran,taraweeh.. No matter how busy our schedule . The prime reason is we have a firm resolution to. . So how do you keep yourself motivated .. Establish  the purpose of life in our minds, this will motivate  us to fulfill that purpose

Allah Almighty has already answered this question for us:

{And I have not created the jinn and the men except that they should serve Me.}

 (51:56)

  • Quran

When we talk Ramadan . No matter what is the level of eeman for every muslim everyone reads the quran. This quran which we recite is the guiding light

 As God Almighty mentioned in Surat Ibrahim, verse 1:A

“… (This is) a Book We have revealed to you so that may lead mankind from darkness to light by allowing their Lord to follow the path of God Almighty, the Owner of all praise.”

So here we are in darkness if we have no relationship with quran. Now accept you may not be able to read as much quran like you did in Ramadan. But comperae yourself preramadan and try to get better than that state. The best time gto recite quran is in the morning . Start with a few verses with meaning and slowly steadily increase the pages . But do understand and reflect.

  • Companionship

When its Ramadan . For those sisters who have been going to tahajjud prayers or qiyaam nights or having any group ibaadah activity definitely miss it after Ramadan . Sometimes you may not wanting tdo a certain good deed but your friend or companion may inspire you to do it.

The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) was reportedly asked: “Which of our companions are best?” He replied: “One whose appearance reminds you of Allah, and whose speech increases you in knowledge, and whose actions remind you of the hereafter.” ( Al muhasibi)

In another Hadith it was mentioned “A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith

So who are the perfume sellers in your life who may add the right fragrances?

In todays world its difficult to find such friends. Hence it is essential to be closer to masjids, Islamic halaqas ,Islamic social or community groups where you can meet  such individuals. If no matter how much you try you cannot find such friends  so make dua .  If we truly desire good company, and friends who remind us of our purpose and of Allah, we should ask the One who possesses the hearts to bring us closer to hearts that remember Him often.

  • Being steadfast in doing good deed

If you have been fasting whole of Ramadan than continue with the sunnah fast in shawwal , Monday-Thursday, 13-14-15 of every month ,Ashura etc. If you gave zakat in Ramadan you can still continue with Sadaqa atleast every Friday. If you prayed Tahajjud,Duha prayers continue them in addition to the 5 prayers. There are so many more such deeds one can think of . Let us ponder upon the hadith by our Prophet PBUH which means: “Deeds that are most beloved to Allah s.w.t. are those which are continuous even if they are few.” (Hadith narrated by Imam al-Bukhari)

Reward for steadfastness is huge. in Surah Fussilat verse 30:

Which means: “Surely, those who have declared: “Our Lord is Allah”, then remained steadfast, on them the angels will descend, saying, “Do not fear, and do not grieve; and be happy with the good news of Paradise that you had been promised.”

Alhamdulillah what a great reward . May Allah SWT make us among those.

  • Have a relationship with Allah

This something which many Muslims lack. Their ibadah just becomes rites and rituals and they never are able to taste the sweetness of worship. Have some alone time talking to Allah . Sit on your musalla and just talk to him all that your heart wants to.

Trust him . This taqwa will also solve many of the mental issues we face today . I always love to quote this beautiful hadith when I feel sad with the worldwide false propaganda against Muslims  “Know that if the nation were to gather together to benefit you with something, they would not benefit you except with that which Allah has already recorded for you. If they gather to harm you by something, they would not be able to harm you by anything except what Allah has already recorded against you.”
[Tirmidhi]

There is so much more I would like to say but time is limited .

But I leave you with this last piece of advise .

We should never despair when we experience low eeman blues  as long as we are trying. Let us turn our GRIEF INTO GRATITUDE

 

 (Aaliyah khan is a student of  Islamic knowledge and has completed several courses on fiqh, quran ,hadith etc. She is passionate about deen and is an Islamic business owner, author and product Innovator and has created several products for the benefit of Muslim kids and youth. She is an award winning Entepreneur who has also been recently appointed as Governer of Islamic studies for a reputed CBSE school.)


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